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25 Things I've Learned Before Turning Twenty-Five

Updated: Jun 16




I turn twenty-five in five months, and since I've been in isolation, I've been thinking about all the things I've learned in the time I've been alive.

It's so easy to panic with each birthday that you've not achieved enough, but when you think of all the valuable lessons you've learnt, it really does make you feel like you've gained some wisdom... at least it does for me!


Here are 25 things I've learned before turning twenty-five...


1 - Nothing Lasts Forever

When I was about fourteen I always thought I'd have the same friends, same make-up and fashion taste (thank goodness that wasn't true) & same values. However with age you grow up, you realise that a dress over jeans is not for you, and a orange face and white neck is not a good look. What it's like to be a naive teen, eh?


2 - Your Mum is the bestest friend you'll ever have...

Me and my Mum used to fight like cat and dog. I felt like she pressured me into constantly revising and stopped me from having 'fun'. Thanks to her, I have a Masters degree & job I love. She definitely is the reason I'm the ambitious twenty-four year old I am now. We also have the best time together & haven't had a cat fight in absolute years!


3 - Being young doesn't make you invincible...

That was one thing I always thought. Being young was something I used to be fearless, but as the years go by I've realised how precious life is. You never know how long you have on this earth & you should never guess by how young or old you are. I am definitely thankful for such a brilliant twenty-four years.


4 - It's completely OK to outgrow friends...

I used to feel awful about outgrowing friends, but I realised it's completely normal. Also - it's nothing personal! If you and a best friend from school have grown apart, remember it's a normal part of life. Treasure the memories you have with them & you can always message them for a catch up if you miss the old days - just don't take growing apart as a bad thing!


5 - Just because someone is family doesn't mean you need them in your life...

Sometimes family members use this against you. You do not have to speak to anyone who is toxic or leaves a negative impact on your life. For me personally, I'm close to my Mum, Dad & Brother. I have family I speak to,but I'm much happier with a small yet strong family unit.


6 - Home hair dye is never OK...

For me, anyway! I have such long, thick hair - it only ends in my hair turning green and the most horrible patches! I have an amazing hairdresser that cares for my lovely blonde locks, I'll stick to deep-conditioning!


7 - ...Neither is cutting your fringe with your mums kitchen scissors...

So, I done this when I was about thirteen years old, it was that bad I had to lie to people and say I'd gotten chewy caught in my hair so I cut it out.

At first my Mum believed me, until she saw blonde hairs in the garden with absolutely no chewy in them at all. Oops.


8 - Death is sadly inevitable but you can find peace with it...

Very deep but true. I lost a friend recently who was very close to me and it took a while to come to terms with it.

But, eventually you do, and when you finally remember them for their incredible life and leave the pain and anger behind, you will feel somewhat at peace. There is no guide book to how you get to this stage, everyone is different, but the human brain is amazing and time certainly is a healer.


9 - Just because someone doesn't believe in you, doesn't mean you won't succeed...

Trust me, I had a teacher in English Lit whilst doing my A Levels who told me I'd almost definitely be re sitting all my exams the following year and probably wouldn't make it through uni. I now have a Masters Degree at twenty-four in the subject she told me I'd never be good at. Please, follow your dreams. My Mum and Dad always used to say to me, there will always be people waiting to knock you down, don't be one of them!


10 - Nasty comments people make about you say way more about them than they do you...

Kinda a tongue twister, but completely true! People that spend their days slagging you off when you don't give them a second thought are jealous, and obsessed. If anything pity these people, they have nothing better or valuable to do with their time.


11 - School really is the easiest time of you life...

Although I actually prefer being in my twenties to a teenager in school, life then really was much easier. My biggest issue when I was fourteen was whether or not I could pull off blue eyeliner, or whether I should straighten or curl my hair five minutes before I had to leave for school.


12 - A person who truly loves you, will never judge you for your past...

This should be a complete given, however I've seen my friends in relationships where their partners will bring up stuff about their past - really not ok. People who use your past against you can be very abusive, please look out for these signs!


13 - Making mistakes is OK, as long as you learn from them...

In my life I've made a tonne of mistakes, and I used to feel so much shame for it. I think as you get older you start to realise you're only human and if people want to scrutinise you for a mistake, let them!


14 - Having time to yourself is essential...

Please don't listen to these stupid memes going about, 'if you were my real friend you'd text back ASAP.'

Nope, if they were real friends they'd understand some people just need their down time. You are alone with your thoughts every day, learn to become best friends with yourself and most importantly, be kind to yourself.


15 - Love and accepting who you are is vital...

This kinda ties in with the last one, if you're best friends with yourself - life is much easier! Learning to love and be happy with myself was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but now I can say me and my brain are friends - and we love each others company!


16 - You can't help people who don't want to be helped...

I've had friends in the past who have asked for my advice constantly, got me worked up and angry over situations... for them to do it all over again and ignore everything I've said.

As you get older you start to realise who does and doesn't want to be helped, when these individuals come to you for advice again, give them it, but don't get too invested or take it personal if they fall back into their old ways.


17 - You can get very far on a genuinely nice personality alone...

I have managed to get to final stages of interviews over people with heaps more experience than me, down to my personality and enthusiasm. Having experience is great, however business owners want to find people they can also get on with.

The whole 'being nice gets you nowhere' is a myth, show people your fun bubbly personality!


18 - A degree can feel pointless if you've got no experience...

This ties in with my last point, I did get very far in these interview stages, however the person with experience did win in the end... An amazing personality does in fact get you far, but you do need that dabble of experience to go with it. Degree or not. If you can't find work, try and set up your own project, this can really impress employers!


19 - Going to bed early in the morning and waking up late in the afternoon is not good for your mental health...

During this pandemic, it is so easy to sit up and watch bleach DIY fails on youtube, but please don't. Waking up in the afternoon means you've missed a lot of the day - and the sunshine! Set yourself a routine, and try and be a little more productive.

I know this can be hard and I'm by no means saying it's easy. Even if you do something little like make sure to go for a morning walk each day.


20 - It's OK not to be OK...

This has always been something really hard for me to process, especially when I felt extremely low last year. A lot of the time I'd think to myself 'what on earth have I got to be depressed about?' Please change your mindset if this is how you think, depression can get any of us, it certainly doesn't judge!


21 - Money will never buy true happiness...

I always used to joke (but I was a bit serious lol) about being a wag when I was fifteen and sitting alone in a mansion with absolutely nothing to do. No girl, no. True happiness is loving yourself, and the best things in life really are free - you just have to open your mind.


22 - Relationships work when your partner is your best friend...

I have had some of the worlds disastrous relationships... luckily for me I've found someone who I have an absolute laugh with and can call my best friend. We have a gorgeous home together and a little hamster who we call our son, Bennie!


23 - The pill is the devil...

You know what pill I'm talking about. I recently came off it and my body feels free, not to mention I have less panic attacks and feel less anxious in general. It messes with you!


24 - You need a routine...

I am at my lowest when I have no routine, you don't need a job or a date to get yourself out of bed. Get up, go for a walk, do something you love. Even if you create yourself a list of weekly targets, it's always great to show how much you've achieved - even if the goal was to chill and focus on self-care!


25 - It's OK to not be where I thought I'd be by time I'm Twenty-five...

Yep, it's ok! I'm happy where I am, and although I may not be exactly where I'd hoped I'm here, I'm happy and it feels good!