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20 Things I've Learned in the Year 2020




When I first heard of coronavirus, about a year ago, I never thought it would affect us. And if it did, it would only be in our lives for a short amount of time.


It got to March, and we were all told to wash our hands to the happy birthday song, and even then, I thought it was something that would pass. Even after then, when we went into lockdown, I thought I'd be back in the office within a month.


& Then it got to April, my boyfriend who was still working in his office had come home one evening with a temperature, soon followed by myself a few days later, I was unable to breathe properly walking to the loo, and lost both of my sense of smell and taste.


It was then I realised, this was serious. I was grateful I wasn't hospitalised, but I was ill for a number of weeks. Since then, family member of mine have been in hospital with it, and over a million deaths across the world.


And still people think covid is a scam?!


This year has been unbelievably shocking, in more ways than one - so today I've decided to reflect on 20 things I've learned, this 2020, the 20 for twenties.


1. I am not alone


... And neither are you! There are so many people out there going through the same struggles as yourself. Your feelings are valid, and you are worthy, please reach out to someone if you are struggling.



2. My boyfriend is the most amazing person in the world


When I had covid, Adam was there taking the knots out of my hair, washing and drying it. Letting me fall asleep on him for hours even though he needed to pee. I feel really lucky to have someone like him, he really is my comfort blanket and support system.


3. Life is too short for people who are negative


Don't want to weird anyone out, but one thing I struggle with is OCD and obsessive, intrusive thoughts. A major thought that controlled my life over lockdown was death. Probably not surprising with the thousands of deaths popping up on my screen everytime I was working or writing my blogs.


Life really is short, and you don't need to spend it with people who make a negative impact on your life. Remove them, and don't feel bad about it.


4. My family are precious


I'm from a big family, but only really speak to my Mum, Dad and brother, and they really are all I need. I have a really close bond with them, and I'm so thankful for it.


5. Technology is honestly amazing


How would I have survived lockdown without it? Seriously, looking forward to my Zoom quizzes on a Saturday night, and facetiming my parents when I was really sick got me through the darkest weeks in lockdown.


6. Social Media is the best and worst thing


Social media is amazing, there is so much love in the world and it is so nice to see communities coming together. But sadly, it can also be the worst. There is so much hate in the world, so much trolling, so much attacking people for zero reason.


The bullying needs to stop. The sad thing is, it never will. I think moving forward the government should do more to really tackle online trolling.


7. God is good


I know some people don't believe in God, and if you don't - that's ok! But for me personally, I believe, and joining a church and getting to know God has been great for me in 2020. I used to suffer with crippling panic attacks early hours in the morning, and they've now vanished.


So many great things have happened to me on my journey. & I'm so thankful for it.


8. It's ok to suffer with my mental health


It is ok not to be ok, we all have our dark days. Please reach out to someone if you're struggling and don't want to talk to a friend or family member.


Samaritans – for everyone Call 116 123 Email jo@samaritans.org

Information:Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – for men Call 0800 58 58 58 – 5pm to midnight every day Visit the webchat page

Information:Papyrus – for people under 35 Call 0800 068 41 41 – 9am to midnight every day Text 07860 039967 Email pat@papyrus-uk.org

Information:Childline – for children and young people under 19 Call 0800 1111 – the number will not show up on your phone bill


9. There are a lot of people out there that genuinely do not care about others


These people will gladly get on a bus and cough in your face, all they care about is themselves, and even though I knew these people were out there - I didn't realise how bad it really was.


10. ... but there are a lot of people who do care


Have you ever given up on the world, packed your bag for Mars and then you come across a video of true love and kindness? Me too, it really gets me through the day.


11. Britain is sadly, a lot more racist than I thought


I know there is a racism problem everywhere, but I just want to speak about Where I live for now. I know Britain has always had an issue with racism, whether we like to deny it and be ignorant or not, but I didn't realise how bad.


Like come on, a Christmas advert by Sainsburys made its debut of a black family enjoying christmas, and white people lost their shit?!


They said the ad wasn't relatable and was something political. Please bear in mind Sainsburys released 4 different ads of different british families, including a white family.


Even so, say the advert with the black family was their only advert - does the colour of their skin really matter? They were a typical loving, British family.


This is just one example of the racism in this country, but I think this alone speaks volumes - these people were really out here refusing to shop in Sainsburys because of this ad.



12. The NHS are amazing


Free healthcare in the UK is an absolute blessing, and I thank each and every member of the NHS teams across the country. You have kept the world going.


13. I'm a dog and cat person (in 2019 I would have 100% said dog)


I have a kitty now yay! I adopted a cat with FIV who needed to be kept in doors, which is perfect for my one bedroom apartment. His name is Buddy and he's so beautiful. Cats really aren't the nasty animals dog lovers think they are.


14. I actually hate clubs and haven't missed them a bit


They're sweaty, they're gross. They just are ew. It's a no for me.


15. Working from home is a privilege I'm thankful for


It really is - and I can't thank my boss or team for how lovely and supportive they are.


16. Be kind, always - you don't know what someone is going through


I've always known this, and I go out of my way to be kind, but even little things, like going out of your way to tell someone how much you appreciate them. It matters, tell someone how much you value them.


17. The Crown really is a good watch


This is random, but so true - I binged this through the second lockdown and I can't believe I scrolled past it all this time on Netflix.


18. A small group of friends is all you need


You don't need a large group of friends or lots of likes on social media, you just need people who really care about you.


19. I do not need to drink so much


I used to have the mindset I needed to drink to have a good time, how wrong I was. Having a little drink is fine - but it doesn't need to go overboard.


20. I love and appreciate all of our key worker, and I can't thank them enough for all they've done


From nurses to cleaners to caretakers - whoever you are I love and appreciate you!


What have you learned in 2020?



Let me know!